Havent been in love before?

Ahhh here's another one! Hee.. i'll juz copy & paste a few interesting views here to this guys's msg.

Issue: Shame on me... I haven't been in love before

Teddy Bear:
Just wanna tell you guys that. I'm the type of guys which is now at the verge of extinction.

Why? I'm 19+, and I haven't been in love before, at all! Not even hold a gal's hand before. Everything shows in the love movies or TVs doesn't apply to me.

Yeah Patience. Be patient be patient and finally still, be patient, how exactly long do I have to wait? I can say to you that I'm totally losing faith in love relationships and many times more do I have to going out alone when all of my frnds are occupied by their lovers? You know (gulps down a can of beer, hmm teddy bears shouldn't be drinking. Sorry mum!), I'm really envy of those couples who can romance with each other under the moonlight. Urgh, forget about it. Actually being alone's also nice! At least you don't have to prepare and extra set of everything for your bf/gf!

Maybe, I'm just a little bit tired.I think I'm the unfortunate one who lives alone inside his own world, trapped by himself, who hopes someone would barge inside of hs world and vice versa, sharing love. Guess that will be my birthday wish this year (aw I've been doing this for 5 years anyway, another year won't hurt).

So, conclusion: Wish all those who found their true love, all the best and please, for god's sake, cherish your love ones, not wasting it around just like you wasted your money, food or water!

7 Replies:

1) I'm 18+ and have never been in love before urm, at least, not with a guy in a BGR. But I'm in love with many more things like God, my family and friends. And well, it doesn't mean you should look down on yourself just because you have never been a relationship. And it doesn't mean that not being in a relationship means you have never been in love. You love your family, friends, right? And there are lots of things in this world to appreciate and love from deep within your heart. Maybe you should start loving the people and things around you and love yourself and people will start loving you back. If you don't love yourself, how do you expect another to love you?

You will drive yourself crazy if you wait and just keep waiting and hope and pray and wish that one day, that someone will just pop up in front of you. Because the truth is you drive yourself into desperation. Instead of waiting, why not try anticipating? Instead of just sitting there waiting, why don't you use this time to improve yourself and slowly mould yourself into the "perfect" one for your "perfect" one? The difference between waiting and anticipating is that anticipation is waiting with excitment and longing with faith and hope.

You do have that special someone out there, the way I know that I have someone special out there. But I guess for you, you have got to go look for it instead for waiting, because you're a guy.Mmaybe being the traditional girl that I am, I still believe that a guy should take the first move. Also maybe because I also believe a guy will cherish a girl more if he was the one who wanted it first instead of the girl.

Don't look down on yourself. Because girls don't like that - I know, I'm a girl and quit drinking because girls don't like that either. anything that will harm yourself, will cause a girl to detest that habit. Stop harming your health. If you're not healthy, you would have even less time to spend with her when you eventually meet her.

So start loving yourself a bit more each day and sooner or later, you will realize that your special someone is loving you back even more each and everyday.

There are a lot of people who have been supposedly in love and in relationships, thinking that there are in love but realize later that that wasn't so. So consider yourself lucky that you haven't thrown away your "first time" into a relationship with one whom you thought you loved but didn't love.

I believe that when you meet "her", she will enjoy every minute of sharing your world with you and your love.

2) Well like the sweeping statement, "let nature take its course", I would like to refine that with, "In nature even predators need to hunt for their prey " find your own food.

3) Heh, actually in uni I realised a lot of my guy friends never had a gf before. And they are all 20+! So you are not one of those guys on the verge of extinction eh. There are many, many more.

Anyway, after all these years, have you met someone you like? Have you tried to go after her? Have you done any bit of chasing? No matter how modern we are, girls still like to be chased after all. Unless you are extremely charming and have all the girls falling for you. Heh.

And also, if you have failed in the chase, don't give up! Perserverence is one of the key thing in going after girls. Patience only comes when the girl in question is attached.

Meanwhile, enjoy singlehood! (At least you don't have to pay double everytime you go out.)

4) Love is OVER-RATED. You have been brainwashed by the media that love is wonderful and sweet and blah blah.

Love will find you, don't worry. And try loving men maybe? =P

5) I think that I am one of those hopeless people that has bought into the notion lately that love with make me a WHOLE person

I want to love and be loved so badly that it just isn't natural or conducive for finding love. I'm slowly learning that love is just one of those things that happens so naturally.

Women are pissing me off lately. They say they don't like to play games but they do, it's their nature, and I find myself having to play them too just to hold back my feelings.

I'm probably just too aggressive of a person, and I have to make a conscious effort to just relax and try and let things fall into place.

On a sidenote: My friends live-in girlfriend just told me last night that she loves me (in so many words), and I am far from interested in her, besides for the fact that she is my friends girl. So frustrating these things are. Pretty much the opposite of what I want.

6) I am 20, a girl and have never been anywhere close to a relationship either. Sometimes I feel like I am one of those near extinction as well Maybe it's because of my education, 10 years of girls school and no brothers. I agree that it's frustrating especially when you keep meeting the "wrong" people.

But I think what is more frustrating is the "stigma" attached to never beeing attached.Whenever I comment on a couple or their relationship, the most annoying reply (and the most common as well) is "You don't understand, you have never been in a relationship before." The tone is just so condescending that I feel like boxing those people sometimes.

What do you poeple think? Is there some negative feel tied to someone who has never been attached before?

7) I guess there's a lot of peer pressure on you huh? You're still young, and like everyone's said, there are more pressing issues you have to take charge of at hand. Anyway guys do get better with age when they have more to offer women, eg stable career, maturity, worldly-wisdom, etc.

And oh btw, drinking does not help. So drop the habit. (At least of drinking to drown your apparent sorrows.)